Change your expat life…
The Ultimate Decision-Making Challenge for Expats
As expats, we face a multitude of extra decisions on a regular basis. Making decisions is where we can find the power to create the life we want and see who we become in the process.
And yet, most of us fall into the trap of thinking that we have to do certain things, that we have to stick to certain decisions, and that all of our most important decisions have already been made for us.
I’m going to challenge you to believe that none of this is true. That you can continue to explore all of your options. And my recommendation is that you remind yourself of this on a regular basis.
Decision-making for expat decision-makers
Here are some of the decisions I am currently faced with:
- Where should I move next during the pandemic?
- Which schools should I pick for the children?
- When should I go?
- Where should I live while our container is on its way to our relocation post?
- How can I get a real relaxing break in the middle of the transition and reconnect with family and friends?
Sometimes, it feels like I’m a professional decision-maker. And I bet you are, too. What decisions are you making right now? What decisions do you know you’ll need to make in the coming year? Are you making a big move with your family? Are you preparing for change? If this sounds familiar, I have a challenge for you. I would like to challenge you to believe the following 3 things:
- Everything is optional you do not HAVE to do anything
- There are no right or wrong decisions
- The more decisions you make consciously, the better
In other words, I challenge you to believe that everything is optional.
There is no right or wrong decision
What if there was nothing you HAD to do?
What if you gave yourself 100% permission to change anything you want in your life?
The challenge that I have for you is to decide to re-decide your life.
Doing so means opening yourself up to realizing that you do not have to continue with the decisions of your past, and you do not have to follow anyone else’s idea about how you should live your life.
It also means opening yourself up to the idea that there are no right or wrong decisions.
What if you could be happy and successful with any choice you make?
When we believe that there is a right and wrong decision, we assume there is something outside of ourselves that decides what is right and what is wrong. But WE decide what is right or wrong with our thinking. (Re)deciding what is right or wrong for you on a continual basis is what makes your life change in the direction you want it to change.
You and only you can decide what is good or bad for your life.
Make more decisions
Decision-making takes a lot of energy and thoughtfulness. It needs to be a conscious process. It comes with practice.
So, if you want to embrace the ultimate challenge for expats believing that you are at choice it’s time to start practicing!
Here’s your quick-start guide:
Practice re-deciding your decisions by answering the following questions:
- What are the five most important decisions you have made in your life so far?
- Would you consciously remake those decisions or stand by them?
- What are the five decisions you want to make in your life?
- Why are you not deciding?
- If there were no right or wrong decisions, what would you decide?
- What can you tell yourself now so that you will always know you have your own back?
Where are you in your decision-making journey? Are you up to the challenge?
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